I have hauled that beast more times than I care to admit.

My mom has vascular dementia. Not much of her life is familiar or remembered to her now. But that spool cabinet? That was a fighting point! It held some strong, perhaps happy, family memory now all but gone.
Last weekend as we were moving her (yet again) to a new facility much closer to where I live (Yay! No more hour long commute - one way!) and we were loading the spool cabinet into the UHaul one more time, with no intention of putting it in her new digs - too big - too impractical, we happened to lift the lid to peek inside.
Guess what we found??
This:
A tag from an antique store.
This was NOT a family heirloom! Just a random antique picked up sometime in the 1970's (I have a vague recollection of it's arrival) Had that tag not been discovered the story would have continued. Family Heirloom. Passed down from previous generations. Exact origins unknown. I would have worked it into my home, told the story to my grandchildren, and perpetuated the myth.
Why was it such a touchstone?
Here's a theory. It's a Merrick's Thread spool cabinet. c. 1900. Mom's favorite grandmother, Bessie (Twining) Potwin, had a brother named Merrick and their father, Jesse Twining, ran a drugstore/dry goods store in Corning, IA in the late 1800's. For all I know he was named Merrick because of that thread!! Anyway, somewhere in the fading mind of a woman who is loosing most of her history, this sticks out as meaningful.
The facts don't line up - but she connected the dots the best that she is now able.
Faces fade, memories lost, things no longer hold meaning, but this was an anchor, a tether, a touchstone; fabricated as it may be.
And we will never know why.
But now I have a new story, the true story, and maybe I will work that darned Spool Cabinet into my home after all.
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I wonder how many of us have "family heirlooms" that we cherish and hold dear, that are merely fabrications of a sweet grand aunt or beloved grandmother's faded mind?
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